1. Setting clear boundaries is a life skill and prevents bullying
When looking at students and bullying (which is on the rise), 70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in schools. Between 1 in 4 and 1 in 3 U.S. students say they have been bullied at school. 49% of children in grades 4–12 reported being bullied by other students at school at least once during the past month. There are several types of bullying. Below are some statistics:
These statistics were found at www.stopbullying.gov
2. Self-Defense tools can save your life or others.
I used to worry about telling people "Everyone needs self-defense cause it could save your life someday." I didn't want people to think I was a fearmonger or a used-car-salesmen. I just want them to understand. The reality is that regardless of if you are a bodybuilder with an 8-pack, a 250 pound/six foot human, a man or a woman, you need to learn self-defense. This does not have to be done with me. It does have to be at a place where you feel safe and are able to explore possible fears. We don't want to think about being attacked or even uncomfortable confrontations, but they happen. Statistically, every 98 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted. 82% of all juvenile victims are female. 90% of adult rape victims are female. Females ages 16-19 are four times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault. Women ages 18-24 who are college students are three times more likely than women in general to experience sexual violence. Females of the same age who are not enrolled in college are four times more likely. Men and boys are not immune to such a fate. They too can experience assaults of this nature. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), LGBTQ people experience sexual violence at similar or higher rates than heterosexuals. 44 percent of lesbians and 61 percent of bisexual women experience rape, physical abuse, or stalking by an intimate partner, compared to 35 percent of heterosexual women. 40 percent of gay men and 47 percent of bisexual men have experienced sexual violence other than rape, compared to 21 percent of heterosexual men.
Knowledge is power. Understanding the numbers and how to prevent yourself from becoming a statistic can only help you in the future.
Statistical data was found at www.rainn.org & www.hrc.org.
3. It builds self-respect, self-worth, self-Image, and helps you feel empowered
Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. There will be times in your life where you are all you have. If you feel someone may harm you or something is outside of your comfort zone, it’s okay to speak up. YOU ARE WORTH THE RISK.
When people are willing to say “no” to things that make them feel uncomfortable, they are taking a positive step to understanding your self-worth. When you can genuinely recognize when a personal injustice is being done to you and you verbalize it, your confidence will skyrocket.
Low self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which an individual views him/herself as inadequate, unlovable, and/or incompetent. Dr. Joe Rubino, the creator of the Self-Esteem System, states that 85% of people have low self-esteem. Often low self-worth leads us to believe we are less deserving.
Growing up, I never thought I would run a self-defense business. Sometimes you fall into adventures you never would have planned but are created by only your wildest dreams. This adventure was designed by my nightmares.
Of course growing up I wanted to do martial arts. Enter the Dragon was an all-time-favorite film. Also, I wanted to be like my mom and dad. They studied Judo. I didn't know much about it, but I knew it made my mother's hands fast as lightning and gave my dad confidence that exuded throughout his body when he was merely standing in my presence. I wanted that confidence and my mother's fearlessness. In elementary school I felt fearless, protected by my older brother and parents. It was middle school that I learned to fear. One in four youth is affected by bullying. Strangely, I was the lucky one. I don't even remember her name. I just remember her fist connecting with the back of my head on the school bus while I sat looking out at the evergreen trees on the ride home. There was no interaction before that point. I kept trying to recall over and over if I had said something to offend her and if so, what it could have been, but there was nothing. I never wanted people to know that I was hurting. However, shortly after that event, I said I liked walking to my father's school to take the car ride versus taking the bus home. "I like the walk. It's great to look out at the water." That was my mantra. High School I became hypersensitive to people around me, developing extreme social anxiety and tried to be overly friendly to other classmates. I would think over and over again about conversations I had or conversations I would have, calculating what would be the best way to move forward. Playing basketball and being a member of the school choir, to the outside world I appeared very social, inside though, I was on pins and needles.
Being the slightly anti-social person that I was, where books were friends, and if they were comic books even better, I decided to do Running Start -- a program allowing me to earn college credit while still in high school. Getting to be on a college campus was great and a challenge in many ways. I was excited that I not only got to be around college students but I was also able to go to school with my brother, who I still look up to today. Being that my brother was four years older, all of my brother's friends seemed like big brothers themselves. I never thought much of it. All of them appeared protective by nature. One in particular who met me when I was 15 and at that time was 32, seemed to be the most mindful of my safety. I remember even hanging out and playing video games with him, thinking in my head; he was just another one of the guys -- family. When I turned 17, I found out he had been following me. At first, it seemed minor; to the mall, spotting me in different places around town. Then later, to music spots I used to frequent with my friends. One night, I got into a confrontation where he admitted to following me for a very long time, angry that I had had a boyfriend for the first time. Long story short, he was the reason I walked into a dojo and sign up for six months of training. I was scared. Because he positioned himself as family and kept close to my brother, mother, and father, I was afraid to tell anyone of his interactions with me. I said nothing.
The story continued, but this was the beginning. And for all of those who are afraid to speak out, I want you to know that you are strong and there are people in your life who love you. They will listen to you and if they don't, find someone who will.
Living In Action
This blog is intended to share about SELF-DEFENSE, WOMEN'S EMPOWERMENT, and my PERSONAL JOURNEY in Learning how both fit into My LIFE. I will share Safety and Self-Defense Tips, my thoughts on the Gender Dynamics we face today, and my thoughts on related news.
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Eight Rules All Runners Should Know
1) Run Using The One or None Rule
We all love listening to the good cuts, especially when we are working out. I’m not gonna lie, I love it too! Here is the problem. You aren’t aware. Especially, if you’re running. When you have loud music blaring in your ears, you can't hear a potential attacker come up behind you and it also slows your reaction time. More over, what if there is a car, a curb, or a strange animal in your path. There are several reasons to pay attention. Don’t tune out. If you want to listen to music, or in my case Audible books, use the 1 or None Rule! One earbud in, the other one out. If that’s too hard, don’t wear headphones.
2) Know your Routes (That’s right, plural)
Why? If the wrong people know your routine, you are out at a disadvantage. If you know your routes, you know where to run if you find yourself in a bind. You know the possible pitfalls.
3) All the Worlds a Stage, All the Men & Women Merely Players
If dealing with an attacker & you’re near people, you want an audience! The more people, the less likely that person is to attack, the more likely you are to get help! So start making a ruckus!
4) Fire! Fire!
What do you yell if someone is attacking you! If you are near a place that may have people, yell fire! It brings a crowd and camera phones! Everyone wants a picture of this crazy fire! Plus, you’ll have evidence of the attack and can better ID your attacker.
5) Want A Shrubbery?
No! Try to stray away from running near shrubbery, hedges, trees, etc. Attackers may be lingering or lurking around.
There are Runner Personal Alarms that are heard up to 1000 ft. or a 300M range. There is one by Sabre on Amazon. Also use your voice as a tool if you should come in contact with an attacker! Speak with confidence, power, and eye contact! You can also use a rape whistle.
7) Follow the Light
It's important to go to well lit places! If you are running, try running in a well lit area. If someone is attacking you, run to a well lit location where you will be better visible to people who could help you!
8) A Person Is Only As Good As Their Weapon
Look around you for items you can use as weapons. Carry a key or keys with you when you are running so you can interlace them through your fingers if you need to. That way you will be able to use them on soft tissue on the body (especially the throat, eyes, etc.). Did you know it only takes 8-pounds of pressure to break someone's kneecap? Yep! And if you break someone's clavicle, they no longer have use of their arm. Hint, Hint, Wink, Wink.
9) Strength in Numbers
There is strength in numbers. If you want to run with friends, runners groups or a pet, all of these are helpful when wanting to stay safe. If you want to be the lone ranger, let people know where you are. Keep your phone on you and download an app which will allow friends or family to know where you are.
10) Run Tall and Stand Strong
It is important to remember to have shoulders back, head high, and be aware of your surroundings. Be a Force. Remember that predators are looking for an easy target.
11) Forget the Road Less Traveled
If you are running, stay on the path. Also vary up your path. If you have a stalker they may see that you have a set route, so have multiple options.
12) Know Some Moves
Learning self-defense is a skill that everyone should do. No one is above it, doesn't matter how big, strong, or fast you are. So look into local self-defense courses. Or go to my online self-defense course and get the runners discount HERE: www.udemy.com/warriorwomyn/?couponCode=RUNNINGWARRIORS
For more on runners safety visit: www.rrca.org
For Self-Defense Workshops or Individual Instruction, please contact Body In Balance at (808) 661-1116
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